Safety guide and how to avoid fraud

This website only makes an introduction. Every enquiry after that is for you and your family to make. Please read the notes below calmly, and if you can, read them aloud to the elders at home.

What the Sanstha does, and what it does not do

The Sanstha only introduces brides and grooms to each other.
Everything in a profile is written by the member.
The Sanstha does not check documents, age, education, job, income, land, caste, health, marital status or character.
A profile becomes visible to others as soon as it is registered. An admin looks at it afterwards — it is not checked beforehand.
The green ✓ mark means only that the admin has looked at the profile once. It is not a guarantee.
Mobile verification means only that the number belongs to that person — it is no proof of the name or identity.
The membership fee only opens contacts. It carries no verification, no guarantee, and no assurance of a match.
The Sanstha takes no responsibility for any proposal.

Common frauds — learn to spot them

Fake photo, fake identity — the photo may belong to someone else. Do a video call before taking things further. If they keep dodging it, stop there.
Fake match settled abroad — a big salary in Dubai, London or America is claimed, but a real meeting never happens. Ask for passport, visa and the overseas employment letter, and visit the family home in India yourself.
The gift stuck at the airport — they say gold or money has been sent from abroad and is held up at the airport, then demand payment in the name of government duty. Never pay it.
Money asked for in advance — visa, ticket, hospital and other urgent reasons. Never send a single rupee, at any stage, to anyone you met through this website.
Digital arrest and parcel scam — someone poses as police, CBI or a courier company and frightens you. Police never arrest anyone over a video call. Hang up, tell your family, and report on 1930.
Investment and trading bait — they push you to invest through an app, show a small profit at first, and then all your money is locked away. If this comes up while looking at a proposal, it is a fraud.
Dowry demand — at first they want nothing; as the wedding nears they ask for gold, a car and expenses. The demand alone is a crime. Refuse the proposal.
Hiding an earlier marriage, divorce or children — if divorced, ask for the original court decree and make enquiries in their village.
Hiding a police case — ask the person themselves to obtain and show their own Police Clearance Certificate. You cannot obtain one in another person's name. Alongside that, quietly ask respected people in their village.
Lies about job, salary, land and education — ask for salary slips or ITR, company ID, original certificates and the 7/12 land extract. Verify the 7/12 yourself on the Mahabhulekh site.
Blackmail after asking for private photos — never send private photos or videos. If it happens, do not pay, save the screenshots, and report at once.
Threats using chat screenshots — do not pay out of fear and do not agree to the match out of fear. Tell your family at once and go to the police.
Pressure to meet alone — very early on they ask you to come alone, to another city, or to a hotel. Say a clear no.
Paying an agent in the name of the Sanstha — if anyone asks for the fee on a private number or QR code, do not pay. Pay only through the official payment on this website.
Asking for OTP, bank details or Aadhaar — never share an OTP or PIN. The Sanstha, banks and police never ask for them.
Marriage racket that vanishes with the jewellery — refuse a rushed wedding. See the village, the house and the close relatives in person, and register the marriage properly.
Hiding illness or addiction — both sides should have a medical check before marriage and share the reports openly.
Fake links and false payment pages — do not open links from messages. Type the website address yourself and pay only from there.
Rushing you and moving the talk off the site — haste is the first sign of fraud. Take your time, talk to your family, make enquiries.

See these for yourself before the marriage

Aadhaar card and PAN card — see the originals in your hand.
School leaving certificate — this is where the true date of birth and age come from.
Original education certificates and marksheets.
Employment ID card and the last three salary slips, or the ITR.
If self-employed — shop or business registration, GST number and bank statement.
The 7/12 and 8-A land extracts — check them yourself on the Mahabhulekh site, where any loan or charge on the land also shows.
If divorced — a copy of the court decree.
If widowed — the death certificate of the previous spouse.
Ask clearly whether there are children from an earlier marriage.
Medical report — blood group, thalassaemia, HIV, diabetes.
For a match abroad — passport, visa and the overseas employment letter. If all three are not there, do not go further.
If possible — ask for a Police Clearance Certificate that the person has obtained themselves.
Do a video call and check the person is the same as in the photo.
Go to the village, the house, the neighbours and the relatives, and ask in person.
First meeting in daylight, in a crowded public place, with your family.
See every document face to face — photos on a phone are not enough.
If any money is demanded, stop right there.
After the wedding, register the marriage properly — that document protects you later.

Demanding dowry is a crime

Giving, taking and demanding dowry are all crimes in India (Dowry Prohibition Act, 1961). The demand by itself is a separate offence. Any proposal on this website that mentions dowry will be removed at once. If a demand is made to you, refuse the proposal and report it to the police (112) or the women helpline (181). You may also approach the district Dowry Prohibition Officer.

The rule about age

A marriage is not lawful unless the groom has completed 21 years and the bride 18 years (Prohibition of Child Marriage Act, 2006). If anyone presses you towards a match below those ages, say a clear no.

What to do if you are cheated

Do not feel ashamed. The first few hours matter — reporting early gives a real chance of getting the money back.
Call the cyber helpline 1930 at once, or file a complaint at cybercrime.gov.in.
Go to the nearest police station. For emergencies, 112. For women, helpline 181.
Keep every proof — chats, photos, numbers and payment receipts.
Tell the elders at home immediately. Do not fight this alone.

How to report a profile to the Sanstha

Write to the Grievance Officer at this email: info@vadarvivah.com. Their name, address and phone are given at the end of this page.
In the complaint give the name of the profile, the link, and briefly what happened. Attach any proof.
You will be told within 24 hours that the complaint was received, and the decision will be given within 15 days.
Private photos, nude photos, morphed photos or impersonation are removed within 24 hours.
The Sanstha cannot investigate or recover money — for that you must go to the police.

One last thing — the Sanstha only makes the introduction. Verifying the proposal and taking the final decision is for you and your family.